I think this probably started a couple months ago when I bought a hitachi wand with his and hers attachments. I forget why, but I think I wasn't getting sex as often as I wanted to and tried to spice things up a bit. It didn't work, but it did solve my problem. Rather than trying to have sex with my SO I was content with having a machine jerk me off.
I binged with it, then put it away and used it infrequently. A couple weeks ago my SO left for a week long trip and I decided to figure out how to get VR porn to work on my Vive.
I'd never really liked POV porn before, but this was another beast entirely. When using it and the wand, I'm guessing I lasted maybe twenty seconds. I don't know quite how to put it, but the VR aspect crossed a line between scratching an itch so I wouldn't be frustrated my SO was scratching it for me, and replacing the real thing.
After she came back I even would sit on the couch with her watching it while she had no idea. We've sort of had sex three times since she got back and I had my VR binge.
Probably a similar situation as a lot of you guys, I haven't been able to be better than semihard for long. The encounter either ended by me getting one too soon or pretending to since I had gotten into my head and things were going downhill fast.
The mental aspect is always the worst, with the self fulfilling question of "is something wrong" that may as well make your dick fall off. The one time I started off hard enough I rushed things trying to power through the problem, and realizing I didn't give her the attention and time she needed killed off any mojo I had going. Today I'm deleting my folders and tossing the toy away.
I don't necessarily think I'm an addict, just a binger, but just standing at the precipice of addiction has been enough to negatively impact my sex life. I hope to go cold turkey, exercise, get out in the sun, and read. The biggest issue I'm going to have is reddit, which does a great job of randomly showing you porn when browsing.
Deleting it off my phone should help quite a bit, since I don't usually use the computer at home ever since I got a desk job. I wasn't paying attention, but I'd guess its been about a week since I've jerked off. The urge to go home and watch porn isn't there. Reading this sub makes it sound like things are going to get worse before they get better if I do have a problem. All I want now is to get back to normal.